It isn’t new. There has been a war against women since the bible was distributed, and even long before that, when written scripture was just beginning. Things are changing, though. I can feel it. Whether the backlash outweighs the gains is still a question, but a movement for justice for women seems to be brewing. I’m a guy, and I have a tenuously large ego. So here’s my perspective that I think is interesting enough to share:
Why men are angry:
Change: Men are seeing their perceived role change from dominance to something else. Not equality, but something less than total dominance. In some cultures, male dominance is extremely important. It wasn’t always important, but has become so since literature was introduced, at least. Now we’ve got movies and television media glorifying male dominance, not to mention porn. The men who fantasize themselves in dominating roles in society seem to be very uncomfortable at the prospect that what they consider as their rightful role of dominance is more and more frequently being criticized as immoral. Their media-driven perception of the ideal man (who they identify with) is being slowly changed by people who see that ideal man as the psychopath he is.
Fear of the Unknown: Men don’t understand vaginas. Until men have babies or have their genitals bleed for several days each month, some men won’t understand that female genitalia is just as normal as male genitalia; they just don’t have the empathy to understand vaginas. And people fear what they don’t understand. You can respond to that fear by learning as much as you can, or you can respond with anger. There is some part of human nature that chooses anger over learning. The reptile part of the brain, maybe.
Apathy or Lack of Empathy: Why aren’t tampons subsidized, yet medical care, cheese, and lard are? There are more people on this earth who need tampons than eat cheese, but the people designing the subsidies don’t need cheap tampons. Apparently they do need cheap cheese. It doesn’t even matter that some of the taxes funding the cheese subsidies come from people allergic to dairy.
Peer pressure: I’m referring to gangs, religion, and social groups like friends, family, and colleagues. When you only hear one side of an argument for long enough, no matter how illogical or evil, you will find a way to force it to seem logical or moral. I think peer pressure is one of the greatest drivers for the vitriolic comments and speeches made by men–irrational vitriolic speaking out gains little to nothing for an individual other than satisfaction at hurting someone’s feelings or showing validation of a cohort’s beliefs. I don’t think most people are evil and want to hurt others, but I do think most people seek approval from peers.
What else is there that I’m missing? I’m totally open to understanding this issue better. It is bewildering to me, for the most part. Women gaining justice is not the same thing as men losing rights, and I can’t find any reasons why a man would be angry, much less violently outraged.